How Do We Pick Our First Dance Song?
Advice from Prosperity Mansion & Farm, an outdoor, garden, Maryland wedding venue located in Frederick County Maryland and near Westminster.
One of the most special parts of your wedding reception is your first dance. It’s a time for you to take a breath after an already busy wedding day and just spend time together. All eyes are on you. This is a very special moment.
With that being said, choosing a song to celebrate such a momentous occasion in your life can be a daunting task. There’s so many songs to choose from, and they can often blur together if you don’t have a way to narrow down the options. If you’re having trouble choosing a song to play during your first dance, keep reading for ideas to keep in mind.
Are You Both On The Same Page About It?
Your wedding is a day to celebrate you both as a couple, and your first dance is no exception. If there’s a song that you love but your partner isn’t a big fan of, it’s probably not a good fit for your first dance. This is such a special moment in your lives and your relationship, and you should both be excited about whatever song you choose.
Is There Already A Song That Is Special To You Both?
Do you already have a song that you consider to be “your song” as a couple? Is there a certain song that was playing during a special moment in your relationship? If there is, then that’s the perfect song to dance to! Your connection to the song will only deepen if it’s the song you choose for your first dance.
Is There A Song That Means Something To You Separately?
Even if the connection isn’t shared, a song that you both feel connected to is also a great choice! Dancing to this song at your wedding will only strengthen the connection you have to the song and your relationship.
Do You Share The Same Favorites?
If you don’t already have a special song, a good place to start is by looking at your shared interest in music. Whether it’s songs, artists, or even genres, determining what you both like is a great way to begin your search for your first dance.
Do You Want a Popular Song, Or a Less Well-Known Song?
You can find plenty of list articles online about the most common songs for first dances at weddings. This can be a great place to find a song or begin your search, but not every couple wants their first dance to be a common wedding song. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to the popularity of your song.
Look At the Lyrics
The lyrics to a song are just as important as the music is. When considering what song to choose for your first dance, keep the lyrics in mind too! There are plenty of songs that sound great, but if you listen closely, the lyrics tell a different story. Songs like this aren’t the best choice for your first dance.
As you listen, you might find it helpful to jot down what your thoughts and feelings are about the lyrics to the song and compare them with your partner. Lyrics that you both resonate with will make your song all the more special to you both.
Don’t Let The Tempo or Beat Turn You Away
If there’s an upbeat or faster song that you think is perfect, you’re free to choose it for your first dance. There’s no rule that says your first dance has to be a slow dance. Alternatively, you might be able to find a cover of the song that’s slower and more suited for a slow dance. Whatever your preference is as a couple is what you should go with. After all, your first dance is all about you!
Have You Considered Choreography? Nowadays, many couples are choosing to choreograph a dance to share with their family and friends. If you’re going this route, ask your choreographer about the song! They may be able to help you narrow down your choices, or they could suggest the perfect song if you still don’t have anything yet.
How Did Your Friends and Family Find Theirs?
If you’re truly stuck, feel free to ask the married people in your lives how they decided what song to dance to. Hearing what they did to pick their song might help you to consider things you didn’t think of before.
“What Song Do We Remind You Of?”
Another way to get your friends and family members’ input is to just ask them what they think! Maybe you as a couple remind them of a certain song or artist that you haven’t considered before. This could lead to you finding the perfect song for your first dance.
Avoid Swearing or Explicit Content
Your family and friends are going to be lovingly watching your first dance, and things could get awkward if your song is full of foul language or inappropriate messages. It’s probably best to keep things on the cleaner side.
Make the Selection a Little Game
You both can secretly write down songs that you would like to use for this occasion. Write them in order of your favorite song to less important. You might also ask people that are special to you both to do the same. Then sit down together and open up the papers and see what everyone has written! This can be quite fun and amusing.
When You Know, You Know
Listen to your gut! As you are considering all of your options and possibilities, there’s a chance that you’ll know in your gut and in your heart that you’ve found the right song. Bring this up to your partner!
Your first dance is often the most special part of your wedding reception, and you want to make sure you pick the right song so you and your new spouse enjoy it. We hope that our advice can help you pick the perfect song to celebrate your new marriage!
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